I love to sleep in! I love to take my time. Countless occasions I get stuck scrolling endlessly on Facebooks news feed. And I've fallen in love with this narrative. You see, I've given myself an easy out, by telling my self 'I'm not an early riser, I'm a night owl- its just not who I am."
Another narrative that I've been letting define myself is that "I'm not an organised person!" I love wearing the badge of honour that I'm this creative mind, I cant be tied down! And by saying that "I can't be understood" is this cool sounding way to let myself off the hook and be okay with being lazy! Guys Im lazy!!
Another negative narrative that I've had to battle, and maybe even more so since starting this blog, is I've told my self for a long time "I don’t have much to offer" 'why does anyone want to read what I've got to say. Why do I think I can make this lifestyle work for me? So I responded in such a way that I stayed in the background and played it safe. I lost a lot of hope, and it dictated a lot of my options. I've put forth a lot of effort to make these negative things come to be a reality.
But I got some hope, and the negative things that people have told us, are the negative things that we have come to believe that hold us back. The newest research in neuroscience tells us the more that’s hammered into us- the stronger these negative pathways become, and they become our go-to reactions to situations. But the hope lies in the power we have to rewire our brains, because the research tells us as we begin to tell our own story and as we begin to own the negative things that did happen, but also to be able to recognise what was untrue about those negative narratives. We can actually reinforce a positive rewiring of our brains so these pathways that have become so strong, we can start battling those with good wiring.
And the way that works, research tells us, is either by telling our own story- when you are able to do that, around people you find as safe and who love you. But also, the brain lights up in the same way when we listen to other peoples stories. If you think this is just unsound unscientific fluff then that's okay. But if you are willing to hope for positive change in your life then I hope you realise, you have gifts to offer! Hope it a motivating state of being! We begin to rewire our brains into believing new narratives. Positive Narratives. And that can lead to behaviour change in the future.
As I end I want to finish with a positive self talking note- a way you can actively participate! Find yourself a mirror and just stop and stare. Those negative narratives can be loud and overbearing, but we are going to start telling ourselves some positive ones! You are going to say it in first person- look into the mirror and say;
"I hope for good things for my life today" "I deserve good things in my life."
You have the power to take back your lives narrative! No one else does- It starts with you.